Lynne Forest - "The Three Faces of Victim" and "The Truth About The Truth"
(I stumbled upon these great analyses of human behavior, and found some remarkable similarities to the in-fighting going on in the truth movement. Recommended reading -- SnowCrash)
The Three Faces Of Victim
Whether we know it, or not, most of us react to life as victims. Whenever we refuse to take responsibility for ourselves, we are unconsciously choosing to react as victim. This inevitably creates feelings of anger, fear, guilt or inadequacy and leaves us feeling betrayed, or taken advantage of by others. Victim-hood can be defined by the three positions beautifully outlined in a diagram developed by a well respected psychiatrist, and teacher of Transactional Analysis, named Stephen Karpman. He calls it the “drama triangle”, I will refer to it as the victim triangle. Having discovered this resource some thirty years ago, it has become one of the more important tools in my personal and professional life. The more I teach and apply the victim triangle to relationship the deeper my appreciation grows for this simple, powerfully accurate instrument.
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The three roles on the victim triangle are Persecutor, Rescuer and Victim. Karpman placed these three roles on an inverted triangle and described them as being the three aspects, or faces of victim. No matter where we may start out on the triangle, victim is where we end up, therefore no matter what role we’re in on the triangle, we’re in victimhood. If we’re on the triangle we’re living as victims, plain and simple!
Read the rest of this beautiful essay here. A word of advice: ironically it doesn't seem to be disinformation, but the accusations of disinformation and the defense of ego that cause severe rifts and discontent. Something that Dr. Legge predicted would serve the needs of third parties. Shifting the focus away from the messenger, and towards the message might help to ease tensions. Make your investment one of curiosity instead of popularity.You will remove your dependency on others, and thereby liberate yourself from the victim triangle. Nobody's perfect, but we are all capable of improving ourselves.
The Truth About The Truth
The national drama around the impeachment and trial of our last President should have given us a moment's pause. Not only because we voted for a dishonest man for President, but also because of what it brought to light regarding our assumptions about telling the truth. Indeed, as news reporters polled public opinion, people from all over inadvertently revealed their own ideas about honesty. What has become increasingly obvious, at least to me, is that telling the truth is not a national priority. So called "legitimate" reasons for skirting or diminishing the truth are everywhere evident. "Of course he lied ... he had a wife and child to protect" or, "He had to lie to keep from going to jail"... are examples of some of the justifications heard in defense of our President. It seems the truth, though widely touted, is not often practiced.Why is it then, that we seem to be failing so miserably at getting honest? Could it be that we're afraid of the truth? Maybe we assume we need to protect ourselves and others from it. Could it be that we believe the truth is dangerous?
Read the full article here. A great read and a lucky find!
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